We’ve all had friendships, maybe they’ve failed or maybe they’ve been successful 8 years down the line but one thing which is essential is communication.
I’ve had many failed friendships but i’m totally ok with that. A lot of friendships are usually for convenience and you’re lucky if you’ve built a friendship that’s not around seeing someone everyday at school and as you get older you realise that.
A conversation with Simone sparked a topic of discussion about the communication within friendships. In any form of relationship you need to have a level of communication and you need to establish that there has to be honesty within how you’re feeling. Me and Simone have been friends for about 3 years since going to college together and for certain reasons we’ve become a lot closer in the past year than we have been, surprisingly this isn’t because we had to see each other everyday at college.
Where the communication comes in is that you have to learn to be comfortable in telling your friend your honest feelings if they’ve pissed you off or upset you. The thing is, a lot of people tend to get worried that it might cause an argument or end the friendship but there’s nothing worse than a friend that makes you feel shit. If you truly feel like they’re your best friend then there shouldn’t be any need to worry about how they might react because they should be appreciative over the fact you’ve called them out for doing something that’s made you feel a bit upset.
Same goes for honesty. There have been a few times when me and Simone have planned to go shopping and I either can’t be bothered or my anxiety is high that day. If I didn’t have a level of communication with her i’d end up going and probably ruining the day but instead I tell her (even if it is the morning before we’re supposed to meet) and agree to just meet another day. There’s no hostility, no arguments and it’s an understanding that sometimes we just can’t be bothered.
I think all genuine friendships should be like that in which you can talk about anything and everything, including things they do which might annoy you! Communicate, discuss and overall just appreciate the genuine friends you have in your life!
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