We live in a world where women aren’t allowed to enjoy sex. Casual dating for women usually ends in them being called derogatory terms and put down for having fun. Not everyone wants to commit to a relationship so why can’t us women be praised for dating without the strings; dating for sex.
Wise words from Love Island’s fourth place contestant, Megan Barton, highlighted the big issue that surrounds women enjoying sex. If men can, why can’t women enjoy ‘casual dating’?
No String Attached is a website in which you can browse people who are looking for no strings fun just like you. It’s free to join and you can easily browse people in your area and then decide if you want to meet up or not. Think of it as Tinder, but for sex! These kind of websites and apps help to normalise the idea of meeting for sex in a safe way but of course it goes without saying that safety measures have to be taken no matter your age. Always meet in public places at first, if you get a bad vibe then you should probably trust it and last but not least… protection!
I don’t think that this gets talked about enough, especially in the blogging industry. Everyone aspires to have a healthy, happy relationship that you’re committed to but sometimes that might not be an option. Maybe you’re moving away or maybe you’re not ready for another relationship, either way it’s totally okay. If you are unfamiliar with what casual dating is “Casual dating or a casual relationship is a physical and emotional relationship between two people who may have casual sex without necessarily demanding or expecting the extra commitments of a more formal romantic relationship.” (Wikipedia, 2014)
I asked on Twitter for peoples opinions on it and what they thought, a main point that cropped up was that it’s totally fine as long as both parties are aware it’s just casual.
Meg said; In most occasions, feelings get in the way. You need to make it clear that casual dating is what you want. It’s so hard not to fall for someone if you’ve been on a few dates with them and you really like them – I’ve been on both sides of the situation in this instance.
Luke says; Being gay it’s quiet hard not to be able to go on apps and try and find someone for “love” so you download all these different apps to try and find guys and instead most of the apps are not for dating but in fact for casual sex. I’ve never really been one for casual sex I’ve always been very old fashioned when it comes to meeting people. I believed in dates rather than just sex. But when I came out of my relationship I thought do you know what screw it! Thinking it would make me feel better. I was wrong it made me feel worse than I did. It was great at the time but afterwards it felt wrong. I think I only did it twice after that I deleted my apps and just tried to carry on as normal. But for me adult dating sites for casual sex aren’t my thing!
Em shared her opinions as well as her experience on casual dating; Not going to lie that’s basically exactly what I’m doing now – I went through a really bad breakup back in April with my best friend and since then I’ve been really put off romantic/emotional attachments to other people so honestly most of the connections I’m forming now are purely physical. I feel like I’d get judged a lot for it but at the same time I’m also really enjoying single life for once, something I’ve never enjoyed before and I think a lot of that is coming from the realisation that I can just sleep with people and get with people and it’s all just fun and there doesn’t need to be anything awkward.
Jess made a few good points about topical issues; casual dating can be risky, everyone knows that girls ‘catch feelings’ a lot easier than boys do…Women are allowed to enjoy sex just as much as men so don’t let anyone tell you any different.
I’m all for doing whatever makes you happy and if that’s casual dating and sex then there’s no issue with it! What are your thoughts on this?
*This blog post is sponsored by NoStringsDating, however all opinions are my own and are in no way biased*
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