“You need to eat more”
“Oh my god I can fit my whole hand around your wrist”
“I feel like you’re gonna snap when I hug you”
“Your outfit would look better with a padded bra”
“Guys like meat to hold on to”
“We’ll need to fatten you up”
“How do you find clothes that fit you?”
These are all real things that real people have said to people who are naturally quite thin. Imagine thinking that you had the right to comment on someone’s weight, whether you thought what you was saying was a compliment. Calling someone skinny is the exact same thing as calling someone fat but when that happens people either laugh along or get called a bully. However, when us smaller people are told our hips look amazing because they stick through our skin we’re meant to smile, say thanks and accept it as a compliment.
Yes, skinny-bashing is a real thing and it happens. Telling someone that they’re skinny does a lot more harm than it does good. For starters, we should be living in a world where someone else’s weight is none of our business but it really is at the forefront of some people’s minds.
There are such things as an ‘ideal’ weight in which we should strive for in order to maintain a healthy lifestyle. If you’re not the ideal weight for your age and height then it may cause health issues. But what happens when you don’t make that ideal weight and fall quite far behind it? In my experience, you get complimented on your stick thin figure and diminished because no matter what you do you just can’t seem to put the weight on. But does that mean we’re unhealthy? No.
I’m quite healthy and so are SO many other people who are on the smaller side. Yes some of us can probably eat 10 big macs and not put on any weight and yes some of us can also eat half of what you eat but either way that doesn’t mean you have the right to comment on our portion sizes, our body sizes or have the audacity to claim we have an eating disorder. 9 times out of 10 this really isn’t the case.
Growing up with my ribs sticking out my body and my wrists being extremely thin was something that wasn’t an issue because I was eating fine, I just couldn’t keep on weight. What wasn’t fine was the comments i’d get every single day about my body.
No I don’t need to eat more and no you won’t fatten me up. Don’t compliment something on my body which would be seen as bullying if I were to compliment your ‘big belly’.
Skinny bashing needs to stop, and it needs to stop soon. We’re beautiful no matter what we look like.
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