You are in control of your life, the people in it and how you treat those people- the only thing you can’t control is how people treat you. Wouldn’t it be nice to be treated the way you treat other people? We can only wish.
Taken from www.psychologytoday.com, a toxic relationship is: any relationship that is unfavourable to you or others. It’s not just abuse either. Maybe your partner is keeping a ‘scorecard’ of everything you’ve ever done wrong in the past and bringing it up a year later to use it against you, being blamed for the way your partner is feeling or maybe there’s just a hostile atmosphere between you both- those are pretty much signs that you’re in a relationship.
As an avid Tumblr user, there are certain quotes that I see a lot, and these are usually romanticising toxic relationships. There’s nothing ‘pretty’ about someone destroying you and you shouldn’t want to stay in your relationship if you feel it’s becoming toxic
Of course if you’re in a relationship with someone who’s quite angry, blames you all the time or is a really controlling person then it might be quite hard to get over the fear of breaking up with them- there’s nothing wrong with worrying what they might do. In terms of advice, it’s quite hard to say anything. Just telling someone to end the relationship is a lot easier said than it is done but ultimately you control your happiness. Cutting ties with toxic people can be so difficult, especially if you’re deep into the relationship.
The whole idea of this post is to kind of spread awareness and I definitely think this is a topic that’s hardly spoken about amongst social media. A lot of people who haven’t been in one or seen second hand how it affects a person don’t understand how bad it can get- physically and mentally.
The common misconception is that a toxic relationship has to be a relationship, not a friendship but in fact I know far more people who’ve been in toxic friendships than people who’ve been in toxic relationships. There is a big difference between how it affects people because friendships and relationships are different but at the end of the day they can both destroy your emotional wellbeing. I’ve had a few fair shares of toxic friendships and it is hard to say to that person you don’t want to be their friend anymore because it might not be convenient but your friendship shouldn’t be a matter of convenience, it should make you happy and not feeling like you can’t mention things or do certain stuff around them.
I decided to take to Twitter and my followers/friends their advice & experience on Toxic relationships and toxic friendships. All respondents are kept anonymous and I appreciate their contributions.
The first respondent told me about a past relationship that was toxic and their experience on it.
The 2nd and final respondent talked about their experience with a toxic friendship
At the end of the day, you have to put your walls up and control who you let into your life and who’s there to stay. There’s no place in your life someone who doesn’t want you the way that you are.
Thank you for reading and I hope that you enjoyed this little different post today! I’d love to hear your thoughts on toxic relationships in the comments below.